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I think a distinction can be made between chapters two and three about newlyweds and that is based on their roles before and after they are married. For instance, in the second chapter, the male held the pressures of being financially stable and maintaining an occupation that would hold the newlyweds family. The worries of the female were more based on her family's dowry and how it would support the newlyweds after marriage. The third chapter reflects the matrimony between the two and reflects more of today's society's marriage celebrations (ex. wife's family pays for the wedding celebration). I found it interesting how Quakers culture had a way of toning down the actual ceremony to a formal dinner for fear that the celebration would stray towards "unbecoming behavior." (page 65) --Joe Cirenza | I think a distinction can be made between chapters two and three about newlyweds and that is based on their roles before and after they are married. For instance, in the second chapter, the male held the pressures of being financially stable and maintaining an occupation that would hold the newlyweds family. The worries of the female were more based on her family's dowry and how it would support the newlyweds after marriage. The third chapter reflects the matrimony between the two and reflects more of today's society's marriage celebrations (ex. wife's family pays for the wedding celebration). I found it interesting how Quakers culture had a way of toning down the actual ceremony to a formal dinner for fear that the celebration would stray towards "unbecoming behavior." (page 65) --Joe Cirenza | ||
| − | I found it interesting how much of a lack of communication there was between husband and wife. Each person envied the others lifestyle and yet both were depressed. It did talk about writing letters back and forth, but they never expressed what they were truly feeling. Women only expressed their feelings to other women who could relate to them. Society was so caught up in their gender roles that couples could not talk to each other openly. -- Kari W. | + | I found it interesting how much of a lack of communication there was between husband and wife. Each person envied the others lifestyle and yet both were depressed. It did talk about writing letters back and forth, but they never expressed what they were truly feeling. Women only expressed their feelings to other women who could relate to them. Society was so caught up in their gender roles that couples could not talk to each other openly. -- Kari W. |
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| + | Adding to Kari's comment, I was also struck by the degree of separation between the men and women. They really seemed to have no insight into the other gender's life. A good example is when Betty's husband is commanding her to respond to his letters more promptly, completely ignoring the fact that she is about to have a baby. Then when Betty's dad has a stroke, and she is so distraught and cannot even visit him because of her confinement, her husband writes to her and basically says, "Well, I visited your mom and she seemed cheerful, you should be cheerful too." Of course Betty's mom was just pretending to be cheerful in front of her son-in-law. Why couldn't men and women be more genuine with each other? -- Rebecca | ||
== Courtship == | == Courtship == | ||
